"It's weird when friends get into relationship, no?", I typed out on my phone and sent it to him on whatsapp. It was 12:30 AM here in India and 10 PM in his country. We have two and half hours time difference. I know him since 2009, we have been friends ever since then. I tell him everything and he tells me most of the things that he wants me to know. I can't stand a single minute without talking to him. When we're not talking, he is always in my head. I miss him. I know that he probably doesn't miss me this much or he doesn't like me as much as I like him but it doesn't matter.
He was online so he replied as soon as he saw the text, "Yeah.".
"What would you do if I got into a relationship?"
"I'd be like "We had something special :(" XD. If you gave me some time, I wouldn't mind it. If you ignored me I'd be all :("
"Well, I can only be in relationship if boys like Park exists." I replied, referring to the character Park of the book Eleanor & Park. God, I love Park. Guys like Park need to exists in real life. Rainbow Rowell did a fantastic job with her book. I love it so much.
"And, I can be in a relationship if I change my personality."
"Nah, your personality is fine. I like it." I replied. A second later, I added, "But we can't date because we fight a lot."
"Fight-zoned :c", he replied.
"Hahaha, omg I just fight-zoned you. xD"
"you will regret it D': xD" before I could reply, he added, "Bbz will u love me 4evr?"
Was it the first time that we were playing along and talking about being together? No it wasn't.
I took a while before typing, "I don't wanna regret, let's date D:"
"Long distance doesn't work.. 0_0" He replied in no time and added, "Maybe when we're 26 and independent, it'll be good"
I wasn't sure if he was serious or playing along, so, I hesitated before replying, "What if it still remains long distance? What if I got married because of some family reasons or something? What if you started dating Jay."
"Nah, don't get married. Runaway.", he replied back and added "Nah doubt it. She has too many options"
"You do too and run where?", I replied.
"Save up and run away to Mumbai then run out of the country" and added, "Nah I don't have"
"Really, I am disliked. 0_0"
"No. Liar. Everyone goes like 'omg, he is so cute' when they see you."
"No really. :/ You don't know what it's like.."
"I don't know what?"
"To be me.."
"Every girl from my college who has seen your picture thinks that you are extremely cute."
"Well, just your college :("
"You look great. You need to stop overthinking every time a jerk treats you badly because they are jealous of you."
He didn't reply. I had questions in my head. Was he serious? Does he like me? What was this? Why did we talk about it? I was still waiting for his reply so I could ask him those questions. I needed to know the answers. I thought that maybe his family was around or he was doing something else. So I asked him, "What are you doing? I need to ask you something."
He replied five minutes later. "Yea, ask?"
"Were you joking/just saying about the dating when I said, 'I don't wanna regret, let's date' or was it real?"
"A bit of both."
"I really don't know tbh ._."
Damnit. I thought and replied, "So you were just saying."
"I don't know as I said. 0_0. Were you joking?"
"How can you not know? 0_0 and I asked first 0_0 I need to know or I won't sleep." Well blackmailing always works and it did again.
"I really don't. It was like 65% serious 35% joke. Like.."
"Like?", I replied three minutes later.
Two minutes later, he sent, "I was like it's not like I wouldn't want to date. But if the conditions were favorable then yes. But it's not like 'NOO NEVER'. Get it?"
Nope, I didn't get it. "Okay, yea."
"Cuz we are soooo far away and neither of us are ready. But if we were close and were ready then why not, y'know? Sorry for making it awkward. And close like able to travel.."
"Shit.", I thought.
Should I ask him, why would he want to date me? I'm an abusive friend and probably be an abusive girlfriend to him. And he knows that he deserves better.
I stared at my phone screen. Watched his status going from "online" to "last seen" and "last seen" to back "online" again. Eight minutes later. It was 1:38 AM now. My head felt heavier. I felt happy and sad both and I didn't know why. I sent, "Why would you date me? Why not other girls? Why me? I'm depressed and paranoid and suicidal.. "
The chat status was now, "typing..". I waited and felt my heart racing. I was ready to be disappointed again but still secretly hoping for him to say something like Park did to Eleanor. God, I was going to cry.
"Because, you're an idiot. And you're beautiful. Inside and out. And I know that you don't believe me but it's true. It sucks that you don't know it. I miss you when we are not talking and I love when we talk or when we skype. I love your eyes and your smile. I wish I could see them, I wish I could see you. I want to hug you and do things together with you. I hate it when you get a crush on jerk guys and when they break your heart. I hate it when your parents are mean to you. I hate it when your filthyhead brother does things to you. I want to kill him for touching you, damaging you. I hate to hurt you. I hate that I can't make you happy. I want you to be happy.. I want you to live. I want to save you. I want to love you... I want you."
I was smiling and I had tears in my eyes. I couldn't believe that he said all of it. It felt beautiful, so fucking beautiful that it hurt. But this pain didn't make me want to kill myself. This pain made me want to live. And for the first time in 4 years, I wanted to live. I questioned myself, "Isn't it what I wanted? Isn't it what I wished for?" And, Yes, it was.
His chat status was again changing from "last seen" to "online" and "online" to "last seen". I kept rereading the text that he sent. I tried to fathom my words into a sentence but I couldn't.
At 1:43 AM, I finally replied.
"I love you."
":) I love you too"
"I should sleep now. It's late"
"Good night. :) Sleep well, I'll talk to you tomorrow."